I have been asked that question by quite a few women, who happened to be few of the many whose husbands have left for whatever reason.I met a friend named Cecil a couple of years back, and her story moved me. She loved her husband wholeheartedly, served him with all her might, and supported him in everything, but one day her husband left and never came back.There were no reasons given, no explanations made, nothing at all.The only thing she knew, she has lost a part of her. She cried during the night and pretended to be fine on mornings for her kids.
I also met Marie, 27. She was my office mate, and since we sit next to each other, we get to talk a lot of things specially most about her personal life. Like Cecil, She was also left by her boyfriend of 5 years.Curiosity came over me, and so I asked her a few personal questions. The conversation made me realize a lot of things. Let me share it with you.
Marie met her boyfriend, Vince, in school, and their love story blossomed right after graduation. She knew right from the start that they were exactly the opposite, but she tried to convince herself that they were just normal couples who fight over petty things. The fight always ends up hurting themselves physically. It was an on-off relationship. But Marie loved Vince and would do anything for him to keep him. Five years passed without them knowing what their goals and plans are together as a couple.But Marie insisted that they were fine, until one day, Vince just simply told her, he was over her. She had a feeling it was coming, but never had the courage to face it. She begged him to stay, but he never did.A few days after, she found out that Vince was already going out with someone else.
So what exactly happened? Didn't Vince love Marie? Is the husband of the first story never loved his wife? But why did both men leave their partners? One thing I learned is, love isn't enough. A love that isn't being worked out isn't enough. Cecil, loved her husband but failed to settle the small arguments they had during breakfast when she was too busy attending to her kids.She failed to spend time with him more.The intimacy was gone. When a couple has stayed long enough to be more comfortable with each other, the more they tend to take their partners for granted.The problem of Cecil and Marie and their partners started when they forgot to take care of each other's needs and settled for something less than what they deserved. They have left behind the word commitment and started to focus on their own selves. A relationship works 2-way.It works when you want to work it out. Both parties are involve. Wives should love their husbands and husbands should love and respect their wives. Talk and communicate with each other. Bring back the intimacy you once lost. Men leave their wives because they feel they are no longer needed. Some leave because they look for something they can't find in their wives. Others leave because they haven't spent time nurturing love and taking care of each other. Start from where you began. Remember the love you had the first time.And don't easily give up on marriage. What God has joined together, no man must separate.
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