♥ Hearts Day ♥

Who doesn't need love? :) That's an absurd question. Everybody needs love, some people admit it and some people don't. But the fact is, each of us longs for someone to love us just the way we are. Cheesy, I know, but I'm just stating the obvious.

Girls are more cheesy than boys (methinks), and so when Valentines Day comes, girls are more excited. I'd be honest, I'm quite excited for the day - not because of those candlelight dinner dates, or anything of that sort, I guess I am one of those hopeless romantic girls who believe in happy ever after stories.

I would just like to stress a point, you don't need a boyfriend, husband or partner to celebrate valentines day. For me, it's simply a day to celebrate love. And we all know love comes in different forms, different ways. A love of a sister, love of parents, love of a friend are the most important things we need to remind ourselves of.

For those who have someone to share with this Valentines, have you got any plans yet? You don't need to be in a fancy restaurant, with fancy gifts - the presence of the person you care so much for is enough present.

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Eating on Time

Diet experts recommend eating on time to avoid starving oneself and not result in overeating. And I have been trying my best to adhere to this - yet still I fail. Today, I haven't had any breakfast except for one banana and took lunch at 330pm. This doesn't make any sense, right? This is how busy I get with work, that I oftentimes forget it's time for break.

Eating breakfast is most recommended. Yet because of I (almost) always wake up late in the morning, I skip the most important meal of the day. I think it's time to change my eating habit and lifestyle.

Starting tomorrow, I'll try to eat breakfast - a fast one, a glass of milk/sandwhich/oatmeal or anything that I can eat to keep a healthy body. Skipping meals is not healthy, I know. My mom used to scold me for skipping meals. And mind you, skipping meals can cause you to gain weight not lose. Starving yourself will make you want to eat more on the next meal. That's what exactly happened to me. I need to seriously work on this.

I'll forgive myself for not eating on time today, and I promise to take care of myself by eating on time and regular exercise.

oOps, my time is up. Back to work. :)

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I like curls!

I have been blessed with a straight black hair. Messy hair was never a problem for me. I comb only once a day, that is after taking a bath. I'm not bragging about it, in fact, I'm getting bored with it. I have always thought of getting some curls but the idea is always brushed off. I still like my straight hair though, boring as it may seem.

Today, the boyfriend bought me a curling iron. He might have heard of my secret wish somewhere or I may have been too transparent about the desire to buy one for myself. I can't wait to try it and see the curls that I've been wishing for.

the curling iron

I believe that girls should not be scared to try out something new for themselves. There is always a room for improvement, a lesson to learn, new things to experience and a lot more to discover. Girls, we may never forget that we are special and precious, and that we are entitled to be happy and we have the right to be loved. This may include getting a hair rebond or getting some curls.

Bye for now, I'm off to trying out my curling iron. Teehee.

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Hello, I'm back!

Hello Hello! I'm back and I think I'm gonna religiously update this blog regularly, if not everyday. For the longest time, I have been silent, but it didn't mean I was out on a different planet doing the craziest of things. Oh well, I think I've done crazy things for the last months (years?) that I have been out of here but don't think it's too late to start for 2011.

I've been seriously quite busy with work now. In fact, I have reports to finish today but I chose to write something here, to distress myself. I feel like I have been so freakingly stressed out lately. And being stressed hasn't improved much of the situation. But I guess I owe this blog an update of what has happened to me.

• The last time I updated this blog, I was searching for a job here in Singapore. I have now been working here for the past 15 months and I must say, I'm having a rollercoaster ride.
• I've been to phuket and Bali last year, and I am hoping to come back there again soon, if not this year, then most certainly next year.
• I went home (Cebu) July last year for my mom's bday.
• I went home last month for my bday. Teehee. A 3 day-trip home with work assignment was not fun at all.

I can go on with the list but I'm back to being busy now. Back to reports.

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Back Pains

I am about to sleep, but my back is quite disturbing. Now, I find myself blogging about back pains. I wanted to find out what might be the causes of these unwanted pains. I just learned that the other term for back pains is 'dorsalgia'. Hmmnnn...

oh well, let me quote wikipedia :

There are several potential causes of back pain. However, the diagnosis of specific tissues of the spine as the cause of the pain presents problems..One potential source of back pain is skeletal muscle of the back.Another potential of low back pain is the synovial points of the spine.These have been identified as the primary source of the pain in approximately one-third of people with chronic low back pain, and in most people with neck pain following whiplash.

woot..uhmmmnn..ok..that didn't explain much..i guess get some sleep. Maybe, just maybe, stress has something to do with it, and getting some rest might help. Now, I think I am explaining things better.

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making sense

8:44 in the evening, Singapore time. I am trying to be as much as unbiased as possible. I am trying to figure out things, look into it, see through it and live with it. I am not feeling elated about anything at all at this point.And I don't think I am making sense either.

Things have been tough these days. Rejected passes left and right and it leaves me thinking, what awaits me here. My heart is breaking, my mind is racing with thoughts and my body is tired..I'm looking for caring eyes, thoughtful lips that would encourage me to keep moving, keep going and never give up. I am searching for some desperate help from someone who feels what I am feeling. This feels really terrible...and then I look up.

All along I know I have been running to and fro, not knowing where I am supposed to go..I have no idea what's in store for me..My faith is shaking, I need some serious attention. God, I need you now more than ever..Please come to my rescue.See me through tonight, lord. Surround me with your peace and fill me with your love. Let me feel you , come and draw close to me..I feel so alone lord. I feel so insecure,but I know You are my security,my sure foundation, my portion in the land of the living. You are all alone I need tonight.

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I know things don't make sense at this moment in my life but YOU DO lord..You alone are the real thing in my life..You and you alone.I love you. I may not also be making sense, but as long as YOU ARE in my life, I am okay.

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why do men leave their wives?

I have been asked that question by quite a few women, who happened to be few of the many whose husbands have left for whatever reason.I met a friend named Cecil a couple of years back, and her story moved me. She loved her husband wholeheartedly, served him with all her might, and supported him in everything, but one day her husband left and never came back.There were no reasons given, no explanations made, nothing at all.The only thing she knew, she has lost a part of her. She cried during the night and pretended to be fine on mornings for her kids.

I also met Marie, 27. She was my office mate, and since we sit next to each other, we get to talk a lot of things specially most about her personal life. Like Cecil, She was also left by her boyfriend of 5 years.Curiosity came over me, and so I asked her a few personal questions. The conversation made me realize a lot of things. Let me share it with you.

Marie met her boyfriend, Vince, in school, and their love story blossomed right after graduation. She knew right from the start that they were exactly the opposite, but she tried to convince herself that they were just normal couples who fight over petty things. The fight always ends up hurting themselves physically. It was an on-off relationship. But Marie loved Vince and would do anything for him to keep him. Five years passed without them knowing what their goals and plans are together as a couple.But Marie insisted that they were fine, until one day, Vince just simply told her, he was over her. She had a feeling it was coming, but never had the courage to face it. She begged him to stay, but he never did.A few days after, she found out that Vince was already going out with someone else.

So what exactly happened? Didn't Vince love Marie? Is the husband of the first story never loved his wife? But why did both men leave their partners? One thing I learned is, love isn't enough. A love that isn't being worked out isn't enough. Cecil, loved her husband but failed to settle the small arguments they had during breakfast when she was too busy attending to her kids.She failed to spend time with him more.The intimacy was gone. When a couple has stayed long enough to be more comfortable with each other, the more they tend to take their partners for granted.The problem of Cecil and Marie and their partners started when they forgot to take care of each other's needs and settled for something less than what they deserved. They have left behind the word commitment and started to focus on their own selves. A relationship works 2-way.It works when you want to work it out. Both parties are involve. Wives should love their husbands and husbands should love and respect their wives. Talk and communicate with each other. Bring back the intimacy you once lost. Men leave their wives because they feel they are no longer needed. Some leave because they look for something they can't find in their wives. Others leave because they haven't spent time nurturing love and taking care of each other. Start from where you began. Remember the love you had the first time.And don't easily give up on marriage. What God has joined together, no man must separate.

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